08-11-2015, 01:05 AM
(08-11-2015, 12:51 AM)Surge Wrote:(08-11-2015, 12:41 AM)Reks Wrote: Because people are totally in control of their emotions at all times, especially in the face of such breaking events
It's remarkably naive to think you can joke and everyone will like it.
The subject matter of a joke is still the most important part of it, no matter of it's quality.
And it sounds like you're blaming the victims of negativity that you can't joke about things like that. Even if you weren't, it's still selfish to whine about why you can't than just trying to keep things considerate for everyone.
You can't always know, of course. But it's pretty safe to say that the touchier topics, like suicide, 9/11, ect
Are generally off limits for jokes.
If you absolutely want to bring light to people's days, be considerate and don't poison your good intentions with a bad topic.
Because emotions are a totally run away train that you CAN'T control or even influence, and "I'M UPSET" is an absolutely valid reason why nobody should try and cheer up you or anyone else going through the same thing.
Then we have an insult, "you're victim blaming" and "your point is selfish" appeals to emotion and need for popularity to make me feel guilty for having an opinion and make me look like a jackass.
Again, you shouldn't be so attached to the idea of "this makes me sad" that nobody can come in and make you laugh, there is no reason to latch onto anything negative like that.
"It sounds like" is not an insult. I was saying that was precisely what it sounded like, not outright insulting you for it.
And you shouldn't forget that you just can't let go of some things.
They never leave you.
You've likely not had a traumatic incident like that. You're not likely to see that those events tend to scar you for life. There's no reason to latch onto it, no, because it's not reasonable in the first place to ask someone to "let go".
So again, just be considerate what you say in your efforts to make others laugh. You never know when someone will be offended. Much better that they get mad at you for a slight rather than it being over something that IS serious.