08-11-2015, 01:17 AM
(08-11-2015, 01:05 AM)Reks Wrote:fortunately I'm not paranoid enough to think the "I said it sounds like" scapegoat was intentional, or if it somehow makes you feel better I can say I don't think you're smart/slimy enough to think of including that in advance.(08-11-2015, 12:51 AM)Surge Wrote: Because emotions are a totally run away train that you CAN'T control or even influence, and "I'M UPSET" is an absolutely valid reason why nobody should try and cheer up you or anyone else going through the same thing.
Then we have an insult, "you're victim blaming" and "your point is selfish" appeals to emotion and need for popularity to make me feel guilty for having an opinion and make me look like a jackass.
Again, you shouldn't be so attached to the idea of "this makes me sad" that nobody can come in and make you laugh, there is no reason to latch onto anything negative like that.
"It sounds like" is not an insult. I was saying that was precisely what it sounded like, not outright insulting you for it.
And you shouldn't forget that you just can't let go of some things.
They never leave you.
You've likely not had a traumatic incident like that. You're not likely to see that those events tend to scar you for life. There's no reason to latch onto it, no, because it's not reasonable in the first place to ask someone to "let go".
So again, just be considerate what you say in your efforts to make others laugh. You never know when someone will be offended. Much better that they get mad at you for a slight rather than it being over something that IS serious.
Except the point here is that there shouldn't be things you're required to feel one way about, there should not be anything so awful that you can't feel anything remotely positive when it's involved, nothing needs to leave you for you to let go of that "I need to be sad about this" for a few seconds.
I'm sitting here arguing with somebody about why people should always be able to enjoy a joke, and instead of "that's an interesting thought, thank you for sharing" I get "that is incredibly disrespectful, insensitive, and almost offensive for you to think that"
I mean really, if a joke is funny, you shouldn't feel bad for laughing, if it isn't you shouldn't feel bad for not laughing, and at the same time you should never feel under any obligation to be offended by a joke or find it to be automatically unfunny because of the subject matter.
My feelings on the notion of "you should always avoid sensitive subjects because you never know" is an outrageously offensive discussion for another time.
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