08-17-2015, 01:36 PM
(08-17-2015, 12:31 PM)Surge Wrote:(08-17-2015, 12:29 PM)Segolia Wrote: Call it playing devil's advocate but has anyone considered that ruu/cole genuinely disagree with what surge is saying/how he is acting and that it's not some kind of personal attack against him?
Then perhaps they should publicly or privately raise that disagreement anywhere really instead of downvoting me in silence and with mocking comments respectively :V
(08-17-2015, 01:06 PM)Surge Wrote:(08-17-2015, 12:59 PM)Segolia Wrote: You're the one who made a comment in the first place. Little passive-aggressive jabs like that are practically inviting hatred onto yourself. It would be like making a post on reddit titled "I don't even know why I'm posting this since you're all going to downvote it anyway" and then complaining when people do exactly that.
The two of them still check the forums occasionally, they aren't seeking you out. If somebody calls you a twat, you're gonna say "no I'm not", not write a 1500 essay on why you aren't. Downvoting you in silence isn't a way of mocking you, it's just saying "I don't really care enough to voice my disagreeance except in this token way", in the same way that liking a post is a way of showing your agreeance in a token way.
So it's my fault that they couldn't be bothered to try and resolve any disagreement in a way that is constructive for both sides is what I'm getting from this.
If you think that trying to "reason" with me is a lost cause then perhaps you should look at the way that everything winds up being my fault for why I don't put a terrible lot of stock in what others say, it's difficult to reach a civil end to a matter when somebody feels that the blame has to be pointed squarely at one person instead of both sides accepting responsibility for when they both fucked something up.
You DID call them out.
And in the end? They don't have to do, or say, anything. It's their own choice whether or not they want to settle things, and they obviously don't.
As far as I could tell, it stayed that way with them leaving you alone until you specifically called them out. So you provoked a response. And you got one, albeit in the short-way they decided to do so.
(08-17-2015, 01:15 PM)Surge Wrote:(08-17-2015, 01:11 PM)Marxon Wrote: Rukii thinks I'm a lost cause too.Rukii can think what he wants I don't really care, what bothers me is this mentality everyone I meet seems to have that everything comes around to be MY fault in the end, that my mistake caused a bunch of other mistakes and could have been easily avoided just to make my mistake even worse in comparison. I have not and will not accept my role as verbal/emotional punching bag and scapegoat no matter how many people try and push me into it.
It's the reputation you've built up for yourself, since you're usually the one who brings things up and you tend to have an 'unpopular opinion' about them.
The only way to get others to see you differently is to change that yourself.