10-09-2015, 05:04 PM
(10-09-2015, 02:31 PM)Surge Wrote: I had an interesting thought last night that I'm sure people will vehemently disagree with but:
I always tell myself not to expect anything from people that I wouldn't return, treat others as you would be treated and such nonsense but I realized that in some ways I'm still not fair to people. You know everyone has a story that made them who they are, and oftentimes the worst people you'll run into have a tragic one. What I'm getting at here is that instead of being angry at people and holding grudges for their behavior I should be mad at, if anything, fate for putting them in this position, I should hate the events that conspired to make them feel like they need to lash out at people or that there is no point in even trying anymore.
"Well you chose to be an asshole, you could have chosen otherwise" is a nice tool for placing blame but not for reaching an understanding as it omits most "why" questions by trying to provide a vague blanket answer for everything. Of course understanding why something happens doesn't give you the how to fix it, it's just a nice feeling to know why though.
Hey, that's MY way of thinking.
owo
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